Biting my tongue.

How "TUE"TUESDAY

It's only Tuesday and I'm ready to be done with today.. I work at a salon, and I love my job. However,  I have a coworker who has no respect for me and she's just has it out to get me. It makes coming to work really hard when I know we work together. 
I'm sure everyone has that one person that they don't get along with and I'm sure it makes your job hard.
If you're like me, you're not afraid to tell people how it is, but at the same time you are. There are so many things that I'd like to say to this person, but I'm too nice of a person to tell them to stick it where the sun don't shine... and I'd rather avoid confrontation so I bite my tongue.
So I thought I'd help you guys out and give some advice on how to deal with a "frenemy"

1. Realize that everyone has problems.
Just like yourself,  everyone has different things going on in their life and most of us have no idea what it is. Some of us are really good at leaving our problems at the door..others, not so much. Unless you've walked a day in their shoes, don't assume they're the worst person in the world.

2. Kill them with kindness.
Yes, be the bigger person. Smile when you really just want to raise your middle finger. Let them know that they can't bring you down. I know its hard to do and it takes self control. Find the good in every situation, and maybe they will too.

3. Dont LET them get to you.
I know it's easier said then done, especially when your coworker tries telling your boss that you're stealing money...
Chances are, if you're at work, you're there to work...right?  Do just that. Keep your head up and do your job. You're not getting paid to go back and forth with a coworker, you're there to do the best you can.

4. Confront them
If you work with them on a dailt basis it may be time to speak up. Pull them aside and tell them what's up. Sometimes they may not even realize they're making you uncomfortable.  Other times, they'll just continue be an asshole..
But do your best to state your situation and how you feel without making them get deffensive. And of course,if that doesn't work....

5. Go to manager
Nobody wants to be a tattletale but no one wants to feel like garbage either.  If the situation has gotten out of hand and you've done everything In your power to keep yourself from sucker punching somone, its time to get authority involved. Explain in detail what's been going on and what you've done to avoid negative situations. Try to stay calm because bashing the other person can always back fire on you.

So I hope this helps you make it through your work week without killing somone!